Another thing that’s helps me is positive affirmations. Twenty minutes or a half hour in the morning, changing your thinking for hours afterwards. You will feel your brain resolving your inner thoughts positively instead of negatively. And the more you do it the easier it gets, until it becomes just how you think. The more time we can spend thinking positively the more everything just sort of falls into place, or at least our reactions to things.
I agree. I didn’t mean to suggest you should not do upgrades. I was suggesting you should do upgrades for you. In fact I would say that you should specifically do it as a reward for meeting certain goals that you set for yourself. Be your own source of positive reinforcement and rewards, not just your salary, but how you spend your salary.
I just mean like, don’t install a swimming pool now for $50k because you think you’ll get it back when you’re able to sell your house for more money. Such improvements might boost property value, but you won’t get a positive financial return. If you want to buy a pool, do it because you want to go swimming and because you met your goals and deserve a nice reward.
Also, upgrades are expensive. If you’ve got debt, focus kn the debt. Look for smaller, higher value upgrades. For example, if you have a home office, don’t remodel the entire office, buy yourself a new desk and chair. Another idea would be to hire a pro to come in and install modular closet storage; an upgrade to make your life easier, more organized and efficient and that you’ll use and appreciate every day.
Yeah, living space upgrades are not a good financial investment.
I would suggest you pick a few smaller or low cost upgrades to get the most bang for the buck, for example, fix up your entryway, fix up your curb appeal a little. Make your space a little more pleasing to walk into.
Get some savings going for emergencies, and start paying down your loans from highest interest or lowest interest. You may be able to look at consolidating the loan with a private bank to get a better interest rate.
That’s when you most need to do it.
Here’s a link for you. Just listen to it with headphones and try to say the phrases out loud along with her (or repeating after her if there are pauses between them). Nice female voice for you even.
You do not have to believe these phrases as you say them. It’s like when someone says “don’t think about a horse,” and because humans are so silly, we immediately think of a horse.
You say these things and the phrases are stated in such a way that they trick your subconscious into believing. People say it even works if you play these through headphones as you sleep, because your subconscious brain still hears a lot of it. Your brain is already affecting you with things that are not true, “I’m a total loser” “I’ll never have any friends” “I should not have moved to this city.” Whatever.
Doing things feels hard because you’re avoiding the emotions that come from negative thoughts about the thing you want to do, and what those negative thoughts might mean about you. It’s a trap. If your brain is saying shit to you like “should/shouldn’t have” or “always/never” it’s cue right away that whatever your brain is saying is not true. Positive affirmations will help.
Damn, op is 31 but at 35 you’re one foot in the grave. Nah jk. Listen don’t worry about meeting someone. Just go out and make friends in person. Literally you can just go to the same public place every day and meet all the regulars. Helps if it’s some kind of group activity or knowledge sharing activity. Get into something and make some friends; if you keep at it you’ll meet someone that makes each other’s parts will tingle. And if not you’ll have a bunch of friends.
All life is suffering. You can suffer the discomfort of loneliness or the discomfort of rejection. Probably at the end of the day they are equally uncomfortable but one of these options has the advantage of solving itself over time.
Another pro tip is to fill your head with positive, affirmative thoughts. Spend ten minutes in the morning repeating a lot of statements such as “I have conquered my fear of public speaking many times over; I love how I feel after a day of hard work; everywhere I go people smile at me.”
Use someone else’s list or write your own. Any thoughts you have that makes you feel empowered, write them down. If you spend some time on this in the morning, when your brain inevitably starts talking shit later in the day, it’s going to have these positive affirmations right at its finger tips. You WILL find that two things start to happen: you have fewer, negative, intrusive thoughts, and when you do have them, they won’t be as disruptive to whatever your plans and goals are. It really works. If you follow along with a premade positive affirmations video on YouTube, I guarantee you will notice results the same day. 10 to 30 minutes every morning. Will change your life.
You are 31. You’re going to reinvent yourself many more times. This feeling is very temporary.
Hmmm, I think mine are paper materials. I’ll have to look more closely.
Got a box of alcohol wipes made by Zeiss, specially for cleaning camera lenses and the like. Works great on glasses.
Used to collect beer bottles from my favorite brewery, Sam Adams. Had all 20.
But then something happened in beer and then there were just too many, so I threw them all away.
I always said that too but I really just wanted to continue being stimulated.
What has helped me is to realize that my brain keeps working at night when.
Recently I was working on a project with my son involving some engineering and construction and I came up with an idea at like 9:00 pm and thought about it until 11:30 pm while I tinkered with it but I could not make it work right. The next morning it was like my hands knew exactly what to do and I built it immediately and it worked the first try.
Try acting like your brain’s boss or its commanding officer. Tell it what to do. If you’re having trouble shutting down your brain when it’s coming up in bed time, give it a direct order: “okay conscious brain, it is time for you to stop what you are doing and go to sleep now. Unconscious brain is going to take over on this problem while you are resting.”
For real, your brain needs to sleep. It uses night time to assimilate the days memories so you can recall them later, and it uses that time to process and understand concepts and make predictions.
Thats voice is the whole thing.
Meditation is the act of quieting that voice.
The more you practice it, the easier it becomes.
There’s a lot of ways to meditate (a lot of ways to quiet the voice). Have to practice them.
The advantage is that the next time you are being distracted by those thoughts at a time when distraction is unhelpful, you will more naturally and easily quiet your mind and resume your focus.
It’s like practicing to control your thoughts. Think of it like walking the dog. It’s going to pull at first. Gotta keep walking.
Yeah? Visualize the tab and what’s on it, then visualize yourself clicking the X, and see it disappear. Then visualize yourself back in the tab you want to be on.
I’ll be reading bedtime stories to my kid and realize my mind has wandered to a work matter, for example, and then I do those exercise.
If have too many tabs open at once, I get paralyzed.
I try to think of tasks and issues I am thinking about as tabs, and try to remember to close them when it’s not a good time to think on something.
Oh yeah, I don’t know firsthand but I’d bet it’s pretty common.
I mean everything is legal unless someone enforces the contrary.
Oh, sure, it comes down to knowledge of the facts. If the owner manifests an intention not to recover it, then it is abandoned. But if you just find the scooter, or even if the company has said it’s going out of business, that’s not the same as having knowledge that the owner has no intent to retrieve the property.
It’s not abandoned property unless the finder doesn’t know who it belongs to.
If the name of the company is on the scooter, it is mislaid property, not abandoned property.
The classic bar exam question on this involves the finder of a bag of money. In one hypothetical, it’s a plain canvas bag. In another, it has the name of a bank on the bag.
When the name is there, you have to give it back. The finder only gets to keep it if after legal notice and a waiting period, the owner fails to reclaim it. In most states there is a statute on this, and most of them require turning the property over to police temporarily.
I’m not sure I understand this reference.
Lawyer here. Bud, your shoulder will never recover fully from this. Shoulders are terrible joints. The bones are just sort of there, not really attached to the rest of your skeleto. Talk with your Ortho about the probability that you will need a total shoulder replacement at some point in your life because of not just the broken bone and the healing processes to come, but also the damage to the surrounding soft tissue.
Plus the ambulance ride, hospital visit, and ensuing treatment, is going to take up time and money and it should not be yours. As you noted, it’s really just insurance paperwork, at the end of the day. Call a good lawyer.