I was crossing a crosswalk early this morning on my way to the bus stop for work, while the walk sign was on, and the driver turned left onto a main road from a stop light and smashed into my left side. I was later told that I “flew up into the air”.
It was all very much a blur and I was pretty dizzy and out of it at first, but no head trauma. Some kind lady who said she was a nurse ran to help me up and to the side of the road, and the cops and ambulance came pretty fast (I think, at least).
I was taken to the hospital and was told that I fractured my humerus head (left shoulder). They told me I may not need surgery, but we’ll see what the orthopedic surgeon says during my follow-up appointment in a few days. Other than that, I just have a bunch of scrapes and bruises.
Overall, while I’m in quite a bit of pain, I’m grateful because it could’ve been way worse. My SO and parents are pushing to sue for pain/suffering, which I was hesitant to do until I read (online) that I wouldn’t be suing the person who hit me, but their insurance company), so I guess that’ll probably happen. They already found me a lawyer.
I truly have no ill-will toward that person because shit happens, it was dark, and they got out of the car immediately to call 911, so it’s not like they didn’t do what was right when it came down to it. I’m sure they’re traumatized, and that their insurance payment will go way up… which I feel a little bad about given the state of the US rn. But I guess I don’t have any control over that.
Honestly, while the whole thing was obviously pretty traumatic for me, too—and I keep replaying that moment in my head—I think I’d rather get hit by a car than hit someone with my car.
How are you doing now, OP?
Thanks for asking! Right now I’m still just waiting around; I need surgery because of the nature of the break and its interference with my rotator cuff, but I need an MRI/follow-up before it can be scheduled. So it won’t be until at least the 23rd.
I had some deep-tissue bruises that hurt even more than my shoulder for a while, which made it hard to walk, but they finally mostly healed.
My shoulder isn’t too bad if I don’t move it, but it actually hurts a lot more than usual this morning. The doctor only gave me a few of the weakest non-OTC painkillers you can get, so I’ve had to ration them for when the pain is at its worst. So I’m relying on acetaminophen and ibuprofen, which doesn’t really cut it tbh.
Well, I’m sorry about the travesty called the United States “‘healthcare’ ‘system’” and waiting around, and I’m actually not being at all sarcastic when I say that, sadly. I do a lot of waiting around myself, for the same reason. I have chronic pain and I already rely on acetaminophen and ibuprofen because of that, and if I’d ended up with the exact same injury, I would’ve needed something stronger than Tylenol III and more than a few of them. I’m really sorry they did that to you; that’s literally cruel, I think. You don’t have chronic pain; you have acute pain because you got hit by a car. I’d think they’d understand that and/or care.
EDIT: let me rephrase something, sorry. I don’t know if you have chronic pain or not, and I’m not trying to speculate. The point I was trying to make is that you got hit by a car, and that they should treating you with compassion instead of functionally punishing you for everything the driver did wrong. I already know I’m gonna get downvoted for saying that and I already don’t care. I’m really sorry this is happening to you.
Thank you! I appreciate it. I don’t really have particularly severe chronic pain, but my SO does, so I’m familiar with how hard it can be to get serious pain relief and how horribly frustrating that can be.
imo, it’s cruel whether the pain is chronic or acute. I guess I get why they’re so stingy, but there needs to be a lot more grace for pain patients. It’s not just about pain, but mental health, too. :/
I was definitely a little surprised and annoyed about it. Clearly there’s no questioning the fact that I’ll be in significant pain for (at minimum) a month, so why are you giving me only 6 days’ worth? Are decent scripts reserved for only the people who are literally on their death bed???
driver turned left
A-Pillar Blindness.
It’s a common thing and more people need to be made aware of it. Glad you’re ok.
Definitely sue. You don’t know how this will affect you long term. Years from now, a pinched nerve can render your arm un-useable.
Also if the walk sign was on and the driver turned left, they drove through a red light, so they’re absolutely at fault. I mean sue either way, as this commenter said, but they broke traffic rules and could have killed OP
The walk sign was on, but they also had a green light; that’s how most intersections work where I live, at least. I fucking WISH pedestrians got a light cycle to ourselves. Or at least a few seconds. 😫
But the driver still should have yielded to any pedestrians according to right-of-way laws.
As someone who has been with their family day and night for about a month due to health stuff, I definitely have emphaty with the indecision about the situation.
On the one hand, some types of accidents can happen to anyone due to common variables aligning together and it is natural to chalk it up to “shit happens”. Especially more so if the one causing the incident is as surprised about the incident and as cordial as possible afterwards.
On the other hand, even if you feel comparatively fine and seem to be on your way to rather quick and full recovery, you don’t know if this will cause later harm, sometimes statistically known to be low as doctors would say a couple percent chance or something like that, sometimes not even considered.
You should sue for compensation without waiting for the “if things gets worse” to come to pass. It will be too late if you wait. Most people would also argue that you should take this as a “never talk to cops” thing so it would be advisable against cordially letting the driver know that you intend to take precautions about future risks by aiming for compensation, considering that it will not impact the driver’s life nearly as it may impact yours on the worst case scenario. On this matter, you will have to trust your own judgement and the specific experience of lawyers, I’d say. Not fears of the bystanders that didn’t see the incident, attitude of the driver, or don’t have experience about how similar things turned out later.
Huh. I didn’t know about a-pillar blindness. Definitely an important thing to know.
You’re right, I need to look out for future me even if I feel mostly ok now.
Get a lawyer. Don’t mention how “fine” or “okay” you might think you are. Suing the driver is going to potentially care for any future medical issues. And ideally their insurance will take the bigger hit. This is specifically the kind of time you need to sue.
Lawyer here. Bud, your shoulder will never recover fully from this. Shoulders are terrible joints. The bones are just sort of there, not really attached to the rest of your skeleto. Talk with your Ortho about the probability that you will need a total shoulder replacement at some point in your life because of not just the broken bone and the healing processes to come, but also the damage to the surrounding soft tissue.
Plus the ambulance ride, hospital visit, and ensuing treatment, is going to take up time and money and it should not be yours. As you noted, it’s really just insurance paperwork, at the end of the day. Call a good lawyer.
Not a lawyer but a guy with shoulder problems from teenage antics. I just want to add that you really need to aggressively pursue treatment for that shoulder. The better you handle it now, the more you’ll thank yourself.
When it comes to deciding what to do, try to think about what advice you’d give a best friend in your situation and consider following that yourself. You can work with your lawyer to figure what’s reasonable to expect, but don’t feel bad about making sure any future treatment is covered. Be kind to yourself while you recover, and take medical advice seriously. As someone with a few traumatic head injuries, I’m glad to hear you won’t have to deal with that at least. Best wishes for your recovery.
You’re right; I can’t know how this will actually affect me in the future, so I should protect myself. Thank you for your advice!
You got hit by a car and your parents and SO already found a lawyer? I support the idea but I seems pretty quick - I guess people deal with stress in different ways, and it was their way of helping “fix the problem”.
I hope you’re OK, the whole thing sounds traumatic. The flash backs should ease but if they don’t, do think about getting support in the coming days or weeks to help you process what you’ve been through. Hope you’re feeling better soon!
You got hit by a car and your parents and SO already found a lawyer? I support the idea but I seems pretty quick - I guess people deal with stress in different ways, and it was their way of helping “fix the problem”.
You’re exactly right about that. My parents are “fixers” for sure… that’s how they show their love, mostly. They already have a lawyer I guess, and that lawyer apparently knows someone who works with these kinds of cases. My SO was just encouraging me to accept their offer to pay for the attorney.
God I would love to have your parents. Someone willing to go to the mattresses like that for me.
I’m definitely very lucky to have them in this particular situation.
I have had two work place injuries, one still affects (effects?) me today 20+ years later (I am slowly going blind because of an eye injury). I wish I had not blown it off when it happened. I was encouraged to sue, but it seemed like a lot of trouble for not a big deal back then. If I knew how bad my eye sight was going to be I would have sued for sure.
Thank you for sharing your experience… I’m so sorry it went down that way for you.
You seem like a really kind and thoughtful person. I hope you make a full recovery and go on to a wonderful life.
Awww…🥺 that honestly made me feel a little better. Thank you so much! 💜💜💜
Honestly you seem like you’re too nice. I hope you find it in your heart to sue this person. Someone hitting you with their car is not okay. They don’t deserve forgiveness. They deserve to pay your hospital bills, and they need to do whatever it takes to not hit another pedestrian with their car.
I do plan on suing now, but more out of protecting myself than anger or resentment.
It’ll really suck for them, but it’s an important lesson and a natural consequence of that kind of carelessness. It’s not my fault that most US residents are financially struggling (including myself, which is why I should sue).
This terrifies me lol. My work is only a mile away, basically down the street but I hate walking there. I have to cross multiple busy roads that are like 40mph, but people frequently speed around 60mph. The pedestrian stop signals are super slow and the one time I used them it took 15 minutes, no shit, I timed it.
So I would have to jay walk, three 4 lane roads, all 40mph everyday, just to walk a mile to work.
There is a faster route but there’s no sidewalk, and there’s A bridge that forces you onto the road. Safe to say I don’t walk that either.
The walkability is so bad, you have to drive somewhere to walk and exercise.
I’ve had similarly unsafe commutes; it can definitely be scary. I expect to be even more afraid to cross the road now, even at crosswalks. Ugh, I hate how stupidly hostile streets can be for pedestrians.
Also a 15-minute wait for a walk signal is absurd!!! Wtf, it seems like the people who design cities/roadways hate pedestrians.
As someone who knows someone who was killed as a pedestrian crossing the road…it is not your fault. Don’t forget that fact. Trauma does weird things to our brains even without head injury. Don’t feel guilty about pursuing a lawsuit either. It was the other person’s responsibility to be watchful and follow traffic laws…and they failed. Repercussions are normal in such circumstances even if it is an honest mistake. Hope that you don’t feel any more pain or have more unseen issues. Sometimes these things take time to surface. If you feel unexplainably sleepy at any point, don’t hesitate to see a doctor. Sometimes head trauma isn’t obvious. Wish you the best and hope you recover quickly and thoroughly.
I have a feeling I’m going to be much sorer tomorrow, for sure. Thank you for the advice and well wishes!
If you weren’t prescribed pain meds, ibuprofen and Tylenol taken together have synergistic effects comparable to a moderate dose of codeine. Make sure you stay on top of the swelling too, humeral fractures are no joke. I hope your recovery goes well!
Thank you! Thankfully, they gave me something a little stronger, but I’ll definitely need that advice when my script runs out, which’ll be in just a few days unless the orthopedic surgeon gives me a refill.
Do you need someone to come advocate for you? Is there anyone in your life who’s going to push you to sue even when you feel like stopping?
I’m an uber driver and make my own schedule. I could come to where you are an act as patient advocate if you want.
That’s such a sweet offer. Thank you so much! But no. My parents and SO will definitely pushing me to continue if I start having doubts. Both parents are retired, so they can invest as much time as they want into helping me.
I truly have no ill-will toward that person because shit happens
They were reckless and didn’t care to drive safely in an area where they should have even paid extra attention.
You’re absolutely right. They’re 100% at fault, and should’ve taken their position as a driver more seriously and diligently. But still, I find it hard to be angry with them, at least currently. 🤷♀️
I doubt that they were intentionally reckless… probably just stupid and careless, which we all are at some point or another, in various ways. It just so happens that the consequences of that carelessness in this situation are a lot higher than they are in most other circumstances.
Now, if I found out that they were drunk or texting at the time, that would likely change. Or, perhaps, if I end up having chronic issues that cause me to become resentful.
I doubt that they were intentionally reckless … probably just stupid and careless
Being stupid and careless while manning heavy machinery (car) is about at reckless as it gets.
If you don’t sue, you are teaching them that what happened is okay and to keep doing it.
What if they hit a child next? A puppy?
Oh, I plan on suing, to be clear. My mind is made up. I need to protect myself, especially because I have no idea if this will have long-term effects.
But I still feel the same way about them… just on a more personal level.
You sound like a very sweet and understanding person. A lot of people could stand to learn from your views on other people. Hope you have a speedy recovery!
OP sounds like a pushover, who’s in severe danger of having part of her life turn to hell as a result of insufficient funds for medical treatment.
I didn’t make it clear in my post, but I do plan on suing now that I’ve thought it through; I certainly can’t afford the kinds of medical bills we get in the states.
The empathetic feelings I’ve expressed regarding the driver are just on a personal level, and unrelated to my decision to sue. It sucks, but they made their bed and now must lie in it.
Glad you’re alright! I’m lucky to have driven for years and never done harmed anyone in a collision. If the person’s insurance goes up, well, there’s a reason they do that.
I was lightly struck by a guy at a crosswalk in a busy commercial district… walking on the sidewalk, saw this car apparently coming to a stop and walked out into the crosswalk, but he went a little far. He barely tapped me and I sort of fell o to his hood. It was this old black dude. Not much to say so I just waved and kept going.
I’m glad you didn’t get hurt! I’m sure he was relieved, too.
