Glad you found someone to share your life with. My wife and I have been married for 30 years. Prior to marriage, we lived together during college, had a long distance relationship after graduation due to jobs, moved back together and bought a house.
One night, during a girls night out, they were chatting about our relationship. One of her friends drunkenly told her to shit or get off the pot. So she did a little thinking and one night, while we were watching tv, she turned to me and said, “Let’s get married“.
I thought about it for five seconds and said, “Ok”. We resumed with the tv show and life went on. A couple of days passed before we actually sat down and discussed why she asked me to marry her. We knew we loved each other and didn’t need a wedding or rings to prove it. Marriage was just a formality but we did it anyway. It definitely made our parents happy.
As others have responded, your joint pains are not normal. Yes, I had joint and muscle pains in my 20s, but it was always obvious how I got them and they eventually healed after several days.
When I was 55, my fingers started swelling and I was unable to perform simple tasks. My doctor ordered a series of blood tests, CBC (Complete Blood Count), CMP (Comprehensive Metabolic Panel), Rheumatoid factor, Lyme disease (there are 2 tests for this), plus others that I can’t recall off the top of my head. I was eventually diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis.
You should find a doctor who won’t ignore your symptoms.