I’ve been using that bad boy for about 3 years continuously in my server and 1 year in my desktop. Surprised it hasn’t died on me yet, lol.

Compiling anything is a minority group even in the Linux community. Sounds like a massive headache.

I get where you’re coming from, really. I’ve been disappointed by Linux for years with the learning curve and random errors that no one can help with. I’d take a long break from anything server related and then once you think your ready to come back, go watch some videos that give you inspiration like Techno Tim. Try to make a game plan and stick to it. Use standard stuff like Debian and Proxmox for software and to get a head start try this. Wish you all the best mate.