I have a condition called musical anhedonia. There are lots of us out there but we don’t show ourselves because of social stigma against not being able to enjoy music.

Again, I never said to stop venting. I said to stop diminishing the value of unpaid labor.

Whether OP was referring to alimony or assets. It doesn’t matter. It’s the same general sentiment the vast majority of people have over divorce, which is that the party performing unpaid labor doesn’t deserve to be compensated.

To dismiss this is as a non-issue is incredibly invalidating to people who have suffered as a result of unpaid labor ruining their career and livelihoods. This rhetoric of divorcees who were not holding a job deserves nothing is exactly the stigma that spouses performing domestic labor is subjected to, and what encourages people to attack divorcees over.

Telling people that this isn’t a real problem is not only unhealthy, but actively perpetuates the stigma against domestic laborers are their perceived ‘lack of contribution’ to the economy when the truth is that world runs on the backs of unpaid labor.

*Preserved crawfish and lobster, which tastes like shit because it’s been transported in a barrel for many days.

Most of what we eat today is either fresh or frozen, not mushy decomposing meat.

I didn’t tell them to stop venting. I’m telling them not to use phrasing such as ‘taking all MY hard earned money’ which implies that free spousal labor is not a meaningful contribution and dismisses the value of unpaid labor that billions of spouses, mostly women, contribute to the economy.

What’s toxic is how you use your claims of toxicity to dismiss the very real issues of men downplaying the importance of unpaid labor in marriages and divorce.

Venting isn’t an excuse for sexism. Please stop conflating healthy emotional expression with discriminatory language, and then claim toxicity when that gets called out.

Good is not the enemy of perfect.

I don’t know OP situation so I’ll reserve some judgment. However, I’m really tired of rhetoric about how alimony is always some evil scheme made to specifically destroy men in divorces.

When people get married, often times one of them gives up their job and start performing unpaid labor. Sometimes neither of them give up their jobs, and one of them still has the majority of household burdens forced onto them, affecting their career and performance.

Alimony is a form of compensation for the unpaid labor and it’s impact on that person’s career. More often than not, when people say ‘my ex wife is taking all my money’, what they are really saying is ‘I deserved free labor at the expense of my ex wife’.

Granted, it’s possible that OP could be a domestic abuse victim in which case alimony is a whole other form of fucked up. But if that’s not the case, then please stop.

Sure. I don’t listen to music anyways. Nothing against music, just not my thing.

The implication here is that this person has been beaten as a child before and understands what ‘la chancla’ means.

No, I’m not dense. I’m just capable of understanding context.

Here is a short list that I came up with after a quick search. Justifiable homicide is a similar concept to this, albeit more specific than just ‘killing’.

• joining the army
• becoming a doctor and systemically neglect women and poc
• fatally injuring someone in self defense
• getting someone pregant in places with abortion bans

I love memes that normalize hitting kids

You can’t always prove intent. That’s why some of these problems are systemic. Which one are you doubting? There are too many examples of each for me to list all of them.

Cops are just one of many examples. Here are some other ways of legally killing people:

• joining the army
• becoming a doctor and systemically neglect women and poc
• fatally injuring someone in self defense
• getting someone pregant in places with abortion bans

Notice that I said killing, not ‘murdering’. So long as it’s either not deliberate or acceptable by law, you can legally get people killed.

You can legally kill people too. Cops do it all the time.

I think that’s the joke

The people who hate Jenny over everyone else are the same people who Skylar over Walter from breaking bad. Edgy 14 year boys who will hate a child sexual assault victim over literal murderers, cannibals, and genocidal maniacs. Misogyny at it’s finest.

I’m not asking you because I don’t understand it, I’m asking you because I don’t think you understand it lol.

Tell me then, what is the general human condition? Is it the experiences of the ‘average person’? I hate to break it to you, but this person doesn’t exist.

Who are you to decide who is and isn’t included in the general human condition?

Can you tell me where you got your definition from, and what it is?

Meanwhile there are girl boring guy quirky memes all over this community. Casual sexism is what’s wholesome.

I don’t know why you’re gate keepint existential dread, but here is the APA’s definition: “a profound, deep-seated psychic or spiritual condition of insecurity and despair in relation to the human condition and the meaning of life.”

I’m feeling plenty of despair to the human condition and the meaning of life. I wake up everyday and ask myself why live and exist at all when existence is nothing but pain.