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Cake day: June 9th, 2023

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  • NGL I got asked to elaborate

    We went over on interview time by quite a bit because we talked quite a bit about organizing and ensuring that people were not only doing the roles they volunteered for but also having the opportunities to flex the skills they had in those roles.

    Not to mention also having the chance to build their skill sets and branch out into new roles as they learned about what the other roles had to offer.

    At the time I did that interview I technically had a play group of 15 people but we needed 5 for each session. So basically I’d pick a day for game day. We’d organize and plan the event recruiting players with various roles they had.

    I ended up not taking the job because they changed which location I was going to be working at to being 45 minutes away (and in a state with income tax) from where I lived vs 5 minutes (in a state without income tax) from what I lived and also from 4 10s to 5 8s. Oh and the pay was going to be the same, so that was a deal breaker.





  • After a lot of struggle and multiple failed attempts, I quit drinking

    The first attempt I got sober for the sake of someone else but never addressed the cause of my addiction. So when they died I fell off the wagon really fuckin hard. (This was also the only attempt at sobriety where I experienced withdrawal symptoms)

    The second attempt I tried to get sober my life had gotten so much worse by that point and I didn’t have any idea of healthy coping mechanisms so that one failed after a month.

    The third attempt I had addressed some of the issues but I didn’t have a healthy friend group that could accept me for being sober. So that attempt failed because I didn’t want to lose my friends that I had gained.

    The fourth attempt came after my doctor told me I would be dead before 30 of I didn’t stop. My current friend group (the one from attempt 3) weren’t supportive of my plans to get sober. And even told me to find a new doctor as my was apparently “too stupid”. I was beginning to show signs of liver damage pretty bad at that point so I made the call and cut them out of my life.

    I got sober for me, I went from a fifth of at least 100 proof alcohol every night to zero. I quit cold turkey.

    It was so fucking hard. It was literally months before I no longer had to fight the urge to suck spilt liquor off the floor when I smelt it. It allowed me to face my mental health head on and actually deal with my problems.

    And over the years it has only gotten easier to stay sober.

    If anyone has any questions feel free to ask.


  • Thank you

    It wasn’t my first attempt but my 4th to get sober. Getting sober wasn’t easy, and I think is a topic more people should talk about. You never seem to here people talking about how many attempts it took to achieve something like that, you only ever here that they did it.

    And honestly this is the longest I’ve been sober since I was 12 years old

    I wouldn’t give it up for the world, the quality of life improvements have been amazing and not just my physical health but my mental health as well. It’s amazing how much easier PTSD is to deal with while sober vs not.


  • By quitting drinking alcohol

    Literally the only thing I changed about my life at that time and I went from 185 lbs to 165 lbs in 3 months

    I was drinking a fifth per night of alcohol that was at least 100 proof, so I was a bit of an alcoholic at the time

    I quit cold turkey and within just a few weeks I started feeling a lot better overall and by about 4 months after I quit the cravings stopped every time I smelt alcohol

    I’ve been sober now for about 5 and a half years and the weight has stayed off the whole time. I’ve basically been 160±5 lbs since




  • What helped me a lot was dealing with a lot of the root causes of my anxiety

    Which for me was getting diagnosed with Inattentive ADHD and addressing that

    It caused such a massive boost in my quality of life and was such a boon to my mental health as a result that my anxiety levels went way down

    I literally haven’t had a panic attack in almost a year and that one was caused by my what I’d say was a perfect shit show of a day

    Edit: Not to mention of course that dealing with the ADHD gave me additional skills for dealing with my PTSD but that’s a whole other can of worms.




  • I’ll just go with a tame one (Edit: I have a lot to pick from and most are really hard to put into text due to the trauma)

    My firsthand experience with police brutality

    For context I was 15 at the time and still in highschool

    When I was homeless I slept on some benches in my hometown and one night I slept on the bench behind the local library because it was one of the few that was covered and it was raining that day.

    I was woken up by being tazed by a police officer.

    He was screaming and I couldn’t do a damn thing because I was getting tazed.

    After finally falling off the bench he stopped but was screaming that he could kill me and leave my body in the woods (the town is basically right on the border of a national forest) and no one would find me.

    He was screaming that if I didn’t leave he would.

    I took off like a bat out of hell.

    He followed me with his car from a distance for a while before finally taking off in a different direction. When he took off I stopped walking down the streets and made my way to my school through less conventional means and slept there that night under one of the buildings.

    Edit 2: For anyone curious, I was homeless for 8 years. I’ve got a nice place now and I’m back on my feet.