today was supposed to be my first day of therapy and the therapist didn’t show up. I’m pissed off. I wasted 2 hours for nothing.

I’ve sent her a polite message, asking if she’s sick and hoping she is well, but in reality I wanted to yell at her. However, if I yell at her, chances are she won’t treat me.

Before you suggest to find another therapist, finding a shrink where I live is very difficult and the other ones I contacted have either ignored me or are overbooked. I need therapy and it bothers me to be so dependent on one person.

For those of you who have experienced something similar, how doesn’t it bother you?

  • intensely_human@lemm.ee
    111·
    10 months ago

    I’d feel safer with a person who raised their voice at me for being late, than with a person who just let it go.

    • Alteon@lemmy.world
      12·
      10 months ago

      That’s…a really weird way to feel. Essentially, you’d feel safer with someone that lacked empathy? This isn’t your buddy, this is a professional. You’d prefer it if your therapist wasn’t in control of their emotions, and would rather get angry at you than someone simply saying, “It’s okay”?

      • HipsterTenZero@dormi.zone
        3·
        10 months ago

        There’s something to be said about emotional honesty and transparancy, I suppose. Most of my family’s pretty inscrutable, so I’m always much more wary around them than my more heart-on-the-sleeve friends.

        For a professional relationship though, ehh yeah i dunno.

        • taladar@sh.itjust.works
          1·
          10 months ago

          In a professional setting the real feeling is more likely “stop apologizing so we can get this over with and I can get back to doing the other stuff I have to do” than “I need to punish you for being late”.

        • Lemmy_2019@lemmy.one
          3·
          10 months ago

          Emotionally mature adults shouldn’t have to shout at anyone in daily life. It’s not repressed rage if you have an even temperament.

          I do know several volatile people who consider it normal to ‘blow off steam’ by having a raging argument every now and then. It may be helpful to them but it’s childish and unfair to those around them.

            • belated_frog_pants@beehaw.org
              1·
              10 months ago

              You dont yell at your therapist either. Anger management seems like a good first target if you cant stop yourself from yelling at people.

              No therapist should put up with being yelled at.